People, especially women feel pressure to look perfect because we see other people being worshipped for being beautiful. If it's not the American standard of beauty (most people can't even live up to) it's social media telling us what we should look like. Society places looking good at a higher level of importance than feeling good. Working on how you feel about yourself can change how you externally view yourself. When I lost weight last summer, I wore a single digit for the first time in a very long time but I was still buying double digit clothing. I had a hard time accepting my new size and mentally I was still overweight. I worked on my body but I didn't work on my mind so when one changed the other did not follow. I had to literally tell myself I was beautiful and I said it until I believed it. I even wrote down all the positives attributes I liked about myself. I redirected my thoughts to focus on the positive qualities and building my thoughts around them. I'm in a much better place because I worked on how I felt. Here are a few foundation pieces that helped me view myself more positively and might help you out as well...
1. Know that you are beautiful right now: If you don't see the good qualities in yourself now, even when you lose weight or get a new hairstyle you might still be able to waiver in your confidence. Tell yourself you're beautiful, write down all the things you think make you proud of yourself, like being caring, loving, considerate, having a cute nose or whatever you like about yourself focus on those. Do not be afraid to like yourself, you have that right.
2. Know that you are deserving of good things
Telling yourself you deserve good things is a huge affirmation. When you say you're deserving of something you believe you have a right to it. I learned this from a friend who would say it all the time in highschool. At first I would look at them a little strangely but I know how positive saying something like that is. You have to believe You deserve to be happy and to be positive about yourself and like the way I look and feel. You help no one by acting timid or not knowing how to take a compliment. Be proud of your person and know just because you exist, you deserve good things and have a right to go and get them.
3. Know that you do not need anyone else's permission to feel good about yourself.
Do not put your confidence in the hands of another person, not in your significant other, not in your instagram followers, you must control your confidence. Be your own confirmation. If you feel beautiful, challenge yourself not to put a picture on social media. Yes sharing is fine but don't depend on likes or comments to boost your confidence. Be beautiful and let that be Independent of anything else. Whether you go through a break up or are just having an insecure moment, keep confidence in yourself. Having confidence is an important tool that helps you to grow in life.
When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible. - Lifford
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